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Most of us learn the basics of solo intimacy early on. It’s a great foundation, but what about when you’re ready to move past the familiar and explore what else your body and mind can experience? Enter: advanced solo play.
This isn’t about doing anything “better” or “more extreme” than before. This is about adding layers to your pleasure: intention, anticipation, variety, and a little curiosity. These advanced masturbation techniques can help you discover new kinds of pleasure; whether you’re brand new to exploring on your own, or you’ve been at it for years.
Let’s look at four next-level methods of solo play: edging, sensory play, temperature exploration, and prostate massage.
Edging, sometimes called “peak stimulation control,” means bringing yourself close to the point of orgasm…then backing off. You’ll repeat this cycle several times before finally letting yourself finish. The result? A release that often feels more intense, full-bodied, and satisfying. Have you ever wondered how to edge effectively?
Pro tip: a vibrator with precise speed control makes edging easier because you can gradually dial intensity up and down without losing rhythm. The Starship Super Nova vibrator is a great fit here. Its variable speeds let you climb slowly and pull back smoothly, without sudden jumps in power.
Edging isn’t about “lasting longer” in a performance sense. It’s about extending a pleasurable journey and noticing how sensation changes each time you approach that peak.
Sensory play often gets discussed as a partner activity, but it works beautifully for solo exploration. The idea is simple: introduce different textures, pressures, and movements to keep your nervous system guessing.
The Lovense Exomoon Lipstick Bullet vibe is designed for this kind of variety. Its small, precise tip is perfect for focused sensory play, while the wider body can deliver broader vibration when you change your angle. And, as a bonus, its lipstick style keeps things discreet so it can follow you on vacations, overnights, and more!
Another fun trick: close your eyes and let your hands explore without looking. Removing visual sensation often heightens your tactile awareness. You might notice subtle sensations you were too distracted to notice before.
Temperature play isn’t just for elaborate partner scenes. Adding warmth or coolness during solo time can wake up nerve endings and create a completely different feeling than room-temperature touch.
Important safety note: Never insert anything that’s extremely hot or extremely cold (frozen). Test any temperature adjusted item on your inner forearm first. The skin around the genitals (and the genitals themselves) are extremely sensitive and could have an adverse reaction to extreme heat or cold.
The Sensuelle Aluminium Rumba Heat bullet has a dedicated heat setting that warms up quickly and stays consistent. That gentle warmth combined with its rumbling vibration creates a sensation that’s hard to replicate with standard toys. It’s especially nice during cooler months or if you tend to feel tense before starting.
For cool sensations: store a silicone toy in a clean, sealed bag in the refrigerator for 10-15 minutes. Do not put it in the freezer. The contrast between warm skin and a cool surface can be surprisingly delightful. The Sensuelle Aluminum Bullet can also be utilized here as it's made from metal. The cool metal can be a fun foreplay before switching to the heat setting!
At its simplest, prostate massage means applying gentle pressure or rhythmic stimulation to the prostate gland (sometimes called the P-spot), located about two to three inches inside the rectum toward the front of the body. Some have described the sensation as a deep, spreading warmth or pleasure that builds slowly before radiating outward. Prostate massage doesn’t have to be complicated and it works wonderfully for solo play.
If you’ve never tried prostate massage before, the key is starting small. This applies to both size and intensity. You don’t need a powerful vibrator or a large toy when starting out. Most people prefer non-vibrating tools at first so they can focus purely on pressure and angle.
Try these approaches during your next session:
Once you’re comfortable with prostate massage, you can start building intensity. The Anero Helix’s unique ‘W’ shaped arms stimulate four erogenous zones. With the flexible design created to move with you, it provides multiple sensations and can help you achieve a new level of orgasm.
A quick note: lube is essential for any internal play. Use a generous amount of body-safe lube and reapply as needed. Discomfort is a sign to slow down or stop, never push through pain.
Once you’re comfortable with edging, sensory play, temperature, or prostate massage, try combining techniques!
The Bunny Buzzer’s unique design, with vibrating “rabbit” ears, makes it ideal for layered solo play because it stays in place, leaving your hands free to explore other sensations, adjust lighting, or even just relax your arms completely.
Whether you’re just starting out or you’ve been exploring for years, these solo play tips for beginners and pros all lead to the same place: curiosity, not perfection. Advancing your solo play isn’t about checking off techniques or reaching some kind of “expert” level. It’s about staying curious, listening to what feels good in the moment, and giving yourself permission to explore without pressure. Some sessions might be all about edging, others might be a quick, familiar release. Both feel good. The only real measure of success is whether you felt safe, present, and connected to your own pleasure. Whatever that looks like for you, Starship is here with toys and resources to support your journey.