10 Tips to Make Your Sex Life Better

Great sex requires much more than technique: mastering communication, safety, and sensation can put you in the upper echelon of lovers . Whether you’re a newbie or a seasoned pro, these 10 tips will help you (and your partners) enjoy an even better, more confident sex life.

1. Consent Is Mandatory

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no, no matter how hot anyone gets under the collar. Always remember consent should be FRIES:

• Freely given (no pressure, ever.)
• Reversible (anyone can change their mind anytime.)
• Informed (everyone knows what they’re agreeing to.)
• Enthusiastic (no half-hearted "I guess.")
• Specific (saying yes to one thing ≠ yes to everything!)

Pro Tip: Check in during sex, too. A simple "You good?" goes a long way. Again, if the answer is anything other than an enthusiastic yes, it’s time to pause or stop play altogether. 

2. Communication = Better Orgasms

communicate openly have more satisfying sex.

Try these phrases out and you’ll be amazed at how much better your sex life gets:

• "I really love when you…"
• "Could we try…?"
• "Not into that? Cool, what are you into?"
• Starship Hack: Spicy card games can make breaking the ice fun (and sexy).

3. Lube Is Your Best Friend

Newsflash: Lube isn’t just for "fixing" dryness. It makes everything feel better. In fact, studies show using lubricant makes it easier to orgasm! Wetter is, in fact, better.

Why we love lube:

• Prevents friction (no “ouch”, all “more!”)
• Many work well with condoms (just make sure you don’t grab oil-based!)
• Enhances sensation (hello, mind-blowing orgasms.)

Our Pick: Starship’s water-based lube. No sticky mess, just silky smooth moves all night long.

4. Condoms Make Sex Worry-Free

Do you ever feel like sex just isn’t as good with a condom on? The great news is, there are tons of different condoms! Try different brands, sizes, and sensations until you find what feels great for your body. Unless you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, condoms are designed to prevent any negative outcomes such as an unwanted pregnancy or STI. Why take risks? Use a condom every time.

Condom 101:

• No matter what anatomy you have or what position you play, you should carry condoms!
• Size matters (try different brands and sizes to find your perfect fit.)
• Check expiration dates (yes, they expire!)
• Store properly (no wallets or glove compartments, y’all.)

5. Masturbation Will Make You a Better Lover

You wouldn’t play a duet without practicing alone first, right? Masturbation helps you learn what you like so you can communicate it to a partner. Bonus: There will be less pressure during partnered sex because you know your body. Plus, if you’re with a same sex partner, masturbation can be a wonderful teacher.

6. Aftercare Is Essential

Post-sex cuddles, water, snacks, and a quick "You okay?" make the experience better for everyone. It will strengthen your intimate connection and let your partner know you care about them as a person, not just someone to get off with.

Simple Aftercare Tips:

• Hydrate (sex is a workout for all parties!)
• Clean up (no one wants to go to sleep or head back home a sticky mess.)
• Check in emotionally ("That was fun. Wanna do it again?" “Was there anything I could have done better?”)
• Aftercare is particularly important after rougher or kinkier sex, so make extra sure to check in and look after your partner in those cases.

7. STI Tests Are Sexy

Here’s a shocking stat: 1 in 2 sexually active people will get an STI by age 25. Getting tested is responsible and honestly, kind of hot. There’s nothing sexier in a partner than someone who cares enough about both of you to make sure you’re safe.

How often should you be getting tested for STIs? Every time you have unprotected sex with a new partner. We partner with clinics for free STI testing! Follow us on Instagram and Facebook to know when and where the events are happening.

8. Sex Toys Are Real Partners in Pleasure

Vibrators, cock rings, and other toys boost pleasure. Using them with your lover will take all of your play sessions from good to “oh my god, yes, yes, yes!”

Why should you invite sex toys into the bedroom?

• 85% of people with vulvas don’t orgasm from penetration alone (toys help!)
• Fun way to explore new sensations together
• Brings variety to your sex life
• Take away the pressure of performance and allow you to satisfy your partner (premature ejaculation or difficulty maintaining an erection? No worries! That vibe has your back, and their front ;) )

9. Pleasure > Performance

Porn isn’t real life. Sex doesn’t have to be "perfect", it should be fun. If you and your partner are having a great time together, that’s all that matters.  

10. Keep It Fun (Yes, Even the Awkward Bits)

Let’s face it, sex can be super awkward. But if you stay lighthearted and learn to laugh at yourself, your experiences will be so much more fulfilling. The best sex is messy, real, and sometimes hilarious.

Laugh it off when:

• The condom flies across the room
• You (or your body) make a weird noise
• You accidentally elbow your partner
• You try to say something dirty and it just doesn’t land

Final Thoughts

Great sex starts with consent, respect, curiosity, and the right products. Whether you’re flying solo or with a partner, these tips will help you enjoy every moment. Ready to upgrade your sex life? Explore Starship’s wellness collection, because your sex life deserves an A+.

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